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2. ANTENATAL After confirming that I was pregnant, I didn’t register for antenatal immediately because: So, I went ahead to get Folic acid and Iron Fesolate which I knew was advised for pregnant women to take before I figured out which hospital I wanted to register with and we are able to raise the money…
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1. FINDING OUT I’M PREGNANT When I got pregnant with Bezaleel back in 2021, I didn’t know I was pregnant until the second month 😅. The major reason was that my period skips sometimes especially when my cycle is changing so I thought it was one of those times; plus I didn’t have the pregnancy…
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LESSON 10: GIVE IT TIME This lesson from grief may actually sound annoying at first. I remember when Goddy died and a senior friend told me I will feel better with time. 😏 In my mind I was like shebi you’re mad? Are you saying I’ll forget my brother after some time? Let my brother…
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LESSON 9: KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS AND SEEK HEALING A loaded gun does no harm until its trigger is pulled; releasing a bullet that can cause harm. This is very similar to trauma triggers, without encountering them, you’re partially good. These triggers are books, events, places, smells and sounds that reminds you of the loved one…
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LESSON 8: DON’T SHUT PEOPLE OUT One of the mistakes I made that I see a number of grieving people make is shutting people out. You feel like you just want to be left alone to have some ‘me time’ and mourn in peace right? Wrong! Human beings are biologically social creatures, we thrive and…
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LESSON 5: BOTTLING YOUR EMOTIONS DOES YOU NO GOOD Bottling your emotions or being ‘strong’ after losing a loved one is one of the most dangerous things you can do to yourself. Just like a boiling pot of kunun gyada on fire, if you don’t open the lid to let out some steam (emotions) you’ll…
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LESSON 4: NO TWO DEATHS ARE EVER THE SAME Losing a loved one leaves you scarred in a way that cannot be adequately captured in words but the most painful part is, no two deaths are ever the same. With each loved one you lose, the pain you experience will also be different. After I…
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LESSON 3: ACCEPT THAT IT’S GOODBYE FOR LIFE This is one of the hardest lessons of grief. According to a book on Trauma response, there are basically 4 phases—shock, anger, re-entry, and helping others—a person(s) goes through while grieving, usually characterized by different expressions/actions. Denial is part of the grieving process and is often one…
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LESSON 2: BE INTENTIONAL When you lose a loved one to death, the most painful part is mostly remembering that there are a lot of things you wanted to do with them or say to them before they died that you didn’t get to do. I still remember the ‘I love you my sister’ note…
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LESSON 1: AGE IS JUST A NUMBER There is no time that the saying, “age is just a number” truer than in death. Growing up, I had the notion that old people are the only ones that die until life threw me a hard punch and showed me otherwise. That Wednesday, 8 June 2011 started…
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